Your Q’s My A’s…

I am often surprised at the questions people ask me about Bookish Temptations, book blogging in general, and um…about me.  Today I am going to share some of those questions and my answers. Some are funny, some are serious, and some?!?

Q– Is it hard to run a blog?

A– Well that depends. In general, if you want to have a successful blog  you have to be willing to invest a lot of time and effort.  I think you also need to be very passionate about whatever it is you choose to blog about. More specifically, if you choose to run a book blog you’ll need to read a lot, and be willing to interact with publishers, authors, marketing assistants, other book bloggers, and most important of all your readers. When you hear a blogger say it’s a 2nd job, we’re not kidding. We don’t get paid for it.  It’s a labor of love. It makes things much easier if you have partners. I’m very lucky in that I have a great team here.

Personally, I think you need a good teacher/mentor at least when you’re first starting out, and it sure helps if someone can help you design it as well. I’m fortunate that I have both in one friend *coughJAGcough*  I still don’t have everything mastered, but I’m getting better. I don’t do wonky nearly as often as I used to, and I know what a #jump is.  😉

Q– Do you get free stuff?

A– I can only speak for myself  here,  and I can honestly say that the only thing I get free is ARC’s, eARC’s, and book DL’s for the express purpose of reviewing, and/or participating in a blog tour. That’s it. Again, I can only speak for myself, but if I love a book even when I’ve been given it free in some form I will also purchase a copy. Why? Because I want the author to get compensation. It’s very important to me personally to  support  my authors in any way I can. I also like to have all the different  editions it comes in, so that means I buy the Kindle, paperback, and if available the hardback. That’s just me tho.

Q– Are you married?

A– I have no idea why this would be of interest to anyone, but the answer is no. Not for awhile and I’m not looking for any marriage proposals. I do however love a bit of flirting  😉

Q– Your blog is different from a lot of other book blogs I visit, why?

A– I’m not sure if that’s a compliment or an accusation, but the answer is simple. I made a conscious decision to run Bookish Temptations differently than most book blogs are. Altho my primary goal is to promote books, reading, and writers,  I wanted to talk to the people that come to visit on a more personal level. Most of my posts are written as if I’m talking directly to someone(s) because I feel like I am. I want to have a relationship with my readers. I reply to the majority of the comments that are left as well. I want you to be engaged with me. I also want you to have a good time here. Reviews are important but I like to do lots of other kinds of posts as well.

Q– Why do you use bad grammer/spelling? Did you fail English?

A– Surprisingly, I got very good grades in English. I will make a  confession to you tho… I once had a teacher tell me that I treated commas like they were BFF’s and I should use them more  like a casual aquaintance. Clearly, I have disregarded that advice and I use commas way too often and incorrectly. Srsly tho,  I do spell just fine most of the time, and when I don’t it’s usually on purpose…for fun. I’m sure it makes some people cringe… As far as the rest of my grammer skills go…well I’m not above admitting that my colon/semi colon, apostrophe useage, and sentence structure isn’t flawless, but hey…give a gurl a break and overlook it ok?

Q– Have you ever met an author in real life?

A– Yes. A few months ago I got to meet Myra McEntire who is the author of Hourglass. She’s funny, and nice, and even more gorgeous in person. I also met Beth Revis and Victoria Schwab and all were delightful.

Q– What authors would you most like to meet and why?

A– Hmm…I could write a whole post on this, but I’ll  be brief…

1) Sylvain Reynard– Well, he’s smart,  funny, and very well mannered,  but I bet he knows how to have a good time too. Plus he likes poetry.

2) E L James– British accent… check.  However, once I got over that I think we’d just have a gigglefest.

3) Debra Anastasia– Let’s just say I have a feeling the 2 of us together would require bail money to be available.

4) C L Parker– Anybody who signs stuff with FLYAS has got to be awesome in all kinds of ways, and we both live in the South.

All of the above are people I’d actually like to visit a bookstore with, grab a cup of coffee/tea, and browse and discuss books with. Or, have a sit down dinner and drinks with and just shoot the proverbial breeze. I’m really quite adept at making intelligent conversation, sprinkled with fun and silliness.  Of course it’d also be great to have a one on one conversation with each about their respective book(s). I have so many questions of my own I’d love to ask. Are there more authors I’d like to meet that aren’t on this list? O of course there are. I’ll save them til next time.

Q– Are you writing a book? Have you secretly written a book? Do you write FF?

A– Have you been talking to my mother? No, No, and No.  As much as I might wish I had the gift…I don’t.

1) I can’t write dialogue. I’ve tried. I suck at it.

2) Even if I could write dialogue I’ve never had an idea that was novel or even novella sustaining. I might be good for a short story as long as the dialogue was nearly nonexistent.

3) There isn’t anything  nonfiction I feel proficient, or enuff excitement for to attempt telling other people about it. O… except maybe travel…O wait…I don’t do it enuff to write about it. History maybe…I do have a thing for all kinds of history and it was another area I excelled at in school.

Q-What kind of music do you listen to?

A– Relevance? Ok,  your right, I didn’t set any parameters for Q’s… I have very eclectic tastes when it comes to music. I like pop, rock, classical, EMO, country, and jazz. I’m not big on rap, heavy metal, or bluegrass. It all depends on my mood really. I like big voices, and interesting voices. I want the lyrics to have meaning and the composition to move me.

Q– If you could only read one type of book for the rest of your life what would it be?

A- Egads…that’s a horrific thought because I like all kinds of genres, but if the Universe suddenly decided that all writers had to write just one type of book I’d go for the trifecta. Paranormal/romance/erotica. That would at least encompass 3 of my faves. Gosh that was kinda sneaky of me huh?

Q– How old are you?

A– Seriously?!? Old enough to know better, but young enough to do it occasionally anyway. Make of that what you will.

Q– What’s your take on the book blogging community?

A– Well I think that most of the time we’re a pretty supportive group. I won’t say there isn’t some competitiveness because that would be a lie. On the whole tho I believe there is room for all of us. There are many styles out there. Some are strictly serious and business like in the way they run their blogs and in the type of posts they write.  Some are more the laughs and giggles type, and some are almost exclusively reviewers. I guess we all know which group I fall under. The important thing is to share our love of reading and to promote great books and those that write them.  I have heard of some piracy issues lately, and I find that to be very disturbing. I don’t know whether it’s because someone was on a deadline for a blog tour, or simple laziness. I never mind someone linking to a review I’ve done, but to take a review and not at least change it enuff to make it their own? Dumb with a capital D.  I like all the weekly memes that blogs are coming up with. They’re fun for the readers and bloggers alike. Now that I’ve had some time to get Bookish up and running I’ve been trying to do a much better job of networking with other bloggers and have joined a few blogger groups.

Q– Do you like/participate in any sports?

A– Until a few years ago I was an avid softball player (1st base baby) and sometime golfer. I gave up the softball after one too many dislocated fingers, and a knee/hip injury I suffered during a championship game (we still won btw).  I mostly just play miniature golf  because my putting mojo is still strong, but my long game just sucks now. I have no idea why I lost that part of the game. It was never phenomenal to begin with, but I could keep up and not embarrass myself. O well.  I like to watch American football, baseball, and a few golf tournaments. Occasionally, I enjoy a hockey game. I used to live in a town that had a minor league hockey team, and a friend had season tickets… I don’t do basketball at all.

Q– What’s your favorite thing about having a book blog?

A– Hands down it’s the interaction with authors and readers. I’m a people person. I love meeting new people and getting to know them and then maintaining and growing friendships. And yes, I am one of those that believe you can become good friends with people you haven’t met face to face.

Q– How do you come up with those crazy lists of yours at Goodreads and why do it?

A– The why is easy. It’s just one more way I try to promote and spotlight the authors and books that I love. Lists just pop into my head and I go post ’em.

Q– Do you have a favorite all time book?

A– Hmmm… I can’t do just one.  A Tale of Two Cities by Charles Dickens,  Shogun by James Clavell,  Sense and Sensibility by Jane Austen, anything written by Peter Mayle.  Children’s books: Daniel and the Bronze Bow by Elizabeth George Speare, A Wrinkle in Time by Madeline L’Engle, A Door in the Wall by Marguerite de Angeli.

I had several Q’s asking for my favorites so I’ll just post the A’s altogether.

17 or 7, wine, coffee (all kinds), pumpkin pie instead of birthday cake, steak and lobster, pink (preferably pale pink), roses and tulips, traveling to and exploring new places, hardbacks, in front of a fireplace, spring/fall.

Well I answered a lot of the Q’s that have been asked or sent to me. I hope you know me a little better, and I’d like to know you better too. Chat with me on Twitter, or leave me comments on my posts. I like things that are win-win don’t you?

Tamie Xo

18 thoughts on “Your Q’s My A’s…

  1. ChocoMG2112 says:


    **Somewhere in Toronto, Canada**

    The phone rings in Chez Reynard. A dashing gentleman wearing a smoking jacket, sets down his book and glass of Scotch and rises from his red velvet chair. He glances at his watch as he makes his way to silence the irritating ringing of the phone.

    “Whoever could be calling me at this late hour?” he mused. “Hello?”

    On the other end of the phone he was met with lots of giggling and hurried shushing. “Hello?!” This time he was a little more forceful, thinking it was his neighbor and his wife playing some prank on him as the last time said neighbor visited, he was fresh out of milk.

    “Be quiet!” Came the voice again, with much giggling and more shushing. He may have heard someone fall over, but he couldn’t be entirely sure.

    “I’m going to hang up now.”


    The dashing gentleman sighed deeply.

    “SR, it’s Tamie!”

    The man’s demeanor changed immediately. “Miss Tamie, good evening. Are you well? Is everything alright?”

    Again, there was lots of shushing and giggling. He heard someone being chided for removing her pants.

    “SR, I’m here with Debra Anastasia, EL James and CL Parker… Um and we’re um… kinda in jail…”

    SR sighed again. “What happened? In the background, he heard a lovely British accent slurring something about Debra kissing a bouncer, then giggling and farting.

    “Um, well… we kinda drank too much.”

    “I gathered that.”

    “Can you…” giggles “Can you bail us out? I’ll pay you back I *promise*!”

    “Where in the world are you? Aren’t you all in different parts of the world?”

    “We met at the ROM. And that bouncer? It was a security guard. Debra was trying to recreate the ROM tango scene in GI…”

    “Great Dante’s Ghost!”

    “SR, you so did not say that did you?” Tamie fell into a new fit of giggles.

    “No!” Ahem. “No I didn’t. Let me get my coat and I’ll come downtown.”

    He could tell that Tamie dropped the phone because all he heard after confirming that he’d bail them out was the excited cheering of four drunk women… He grabbed his beret and put on his coat and muttered as he left his apartment. “The things I put up with for these women…”



    My sincere apologies to all these authors whom I greatly love. (And CL Parker, though I really don’t know you, I’m sure you’re cool. I hope you didn’t mind being in a drunk tank with these three…)



    • Tamie says:

      That is the best comment ever. That was amazing! and hilarious. I love it. I love u! I hope they all read it! Hugs and kisses x a million


    • CL Parker says:


      MG, for someone who doesn’t know me very well, the picture you painted was spot on! For this, I adore you! BTdub, that was likely me falling down, or rather, being knock out by a guard that I was getting too frisky with. I do fluv a man in uniform. *waggles brows*



  2. MG! That was awesome. I’m so thrilled all I did was kiss the bouncer. (Oh my god shhhh, I did that once to get into a bar in college!)


  3. OMG Shari! That’s a great little story you just gave us there! I’m giggling so much envisioning this 😀
    ‘ “We met at the ROM. And that bouncer? It was a security guard. Debra was trying to recreate the ROM tango scene in GI…”
    “Great Dante’s Ghost!”
    “SR, you so did not say that did you?” Tamie fell into a new fit of giggles. ‘ LOLOLOL
    And “The things I put up with for these women…” Brilliant!

    And Tamie, if you meet these wonderful authors, will you drop me a line, please? We’ll try not to go into jail LOL
    Great post! LOL at some of the questions you have to put up with. I love your blog and the care you put into it! Keep up the good work! XO


  4. SiteCity says:

    Oh Sweet Lord, ChocoMG2112, this is amazing!!! Not just I spilled my tea on the keyboard (and also tea got stuck in my nasal area). I need a tissue. You are a hilarious little cookie, aren’t you? 🙂
    Actually, I can imagine something like this happening in real life. Debra is trouble maker, in a good sense of course:)

    P.S. I call everyone a little cookie. Just with different adjectives.


    • ChocoMG2112 says:

      Thank you very much. **curtsies**

      It was written very hurriedly during a conference call (shhhhhhh!). I already see errors in it. **face palm**

      Honestly, my writing is usually better than this.

      Just a bit of silliness. I pray SR and EL still speak to me. I hope Ms Parker *will* talk to me once I read her books.

      Great Dante’s Ghost, could I BE any more of a goober?


  5. Amelie Sebastien says:



  6. rdmickey1989 says:

    Well, I am new here after following a sisters Annie and Debb over last week for FF Friday….and well JAG…sniff…sniff. I still miss my original home from years ago.

    I still refuse to change my RAoR avi. It’s been a year since it is closed, but I have JAG and Rob to thank for one thing. Reading!!

    Born and raised a Carolina girl myself, but have lived all over the world. You can thank hubs military start for that one. I still mainly read ff, but my collection of real books is growing. I mean look at all these great ff getting published. *squee*

    *waves hi to the group* and here is a little something about me….

    ….after decades on this earth, I am spending all my spare time on reading.


  7. CL Parker says:

    FLYAS = Fukking Love You And Shit

    Um, hope I can post that. If not, oopsie!


  8. I am so late to this party….and what a party indeed! I am cracking up and have the biggest smile on my face 😀


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