Kat Bastion: Embracing Sensuality…

Today’s blogiversary guest post comes from Kat Bastion…and it’s a good one peeps.

Read and enjoy…O…and there’s a giveaway at the end 🙂

Embracing Sensuality

© 2012 by Kat Bastion

The mark of a great writer is one who embraces sensuality and transports the reader.

Some say life is only fully lived if each incredible moment is savored as if it’s the last moment.  The entire world ceases to exist but for the delightful sensations rippling across your awareness.  The feast for your body… feeds your mind, heart and soul.

Without reservation, I whole-heartedly believe it to be true.

Some would say it’s hedonistic.  I would beg to differ.

Intimate awareness of self transcends mental stressors and uplifts the soul.  It becomes a spiritual experience.  When the heart and soul strengthens, enlightenment follows—our hearts truly open to be able to more fully give and love.

How did I learn about embracing sensuality?

The source of my education, cliché or not, was Cosmopolitan Magazine.  Every cover of Cosmo touts the latest revelations of sex from positions to potions and everything in between.  But this… was something so much more.  In my tender, early teens, with hormones pinging, a hidden gem within those covers slowed me down, made me think, and changed my life.

Actually, after years of devouring that magazine cover to cover as if I’d been deprived of any kind of literature my entire life, two things remain deep in my soul today.  The excerpt of Judith McNaught’s Paradise, which ignited my love for romance as well as… {coughs} …okay, that’s a topic for elsewhere… and an article about getting in touch with your sensuality.

The article itself was only a page or two, brushing the surface as it offered suggestions to tempt the senses:  a jasmine scented bubble bath, a ripened peach, the warmth of the sun, soothing music, colorful flowers.  In essence, they gave one example in each area as a starter kit.

{smiles slowly}

What they left out was the incredible journey on learning to use the tools they suggested.  I immediately became the student seeking to master.  So many new experiences were at my fingertips, and I was very eager to learn.  The “how-to” guide for my innate five senses forever etched itself into my hardwiring like nothing in my life before or since.  Cosmopolitan had unknowingly taught me Sensuality-For-Dummies.

I hope what I share here can do the same for others. {laughs} No Dummies inference intended.

How do we embrace sensuality?

First, some basics:

Find a time and a place to be alone distraction-free:  no kids, no pets, no people, and no phones.  Impossible?  {kidnaps you for the moment}

Collect a few things in advance to take on your journey.  More on those items below.

Become attuned to your body.  Direct your focus on a singular sense and breathe it in like air.  You’re no longer goal-oriented.  You’ve become experience driven.

Bring or be near only one thing you know you love for each sense to enjoy:

Sight:  A book of art, photographs, bright flowers, colorful towels…

Sound:  Soothing music, a water fountain, isolated birdsongs, the ocean…

Smell:  Bath bubbles, baking cookies, a favorite flower, his or her cologne*…

Taste:  Ripe sweet fruit, savory soup, salted caramel dark chocolate fudge… {blinks}

Touch:  Massage oil, hot bath water, a silk fabric, rose petals…

*incidentally, smell is the strongest for triggering long term memory

Obviously, many cross over into other areas, but have one of each dedicated to a particular sense.  No cheating by having one that covers three. {arches a brow as I patiently wait} We aren’t trying to economize here, we’re indulging ourselves.

Now, allow me to demonstrate…

The lights are turned off.  You step into the room awash in candlelight.  A dozen beeswax candles from tealights to pillars adorn every niche and shelf.  Shadows dance on travertine tiles surrounding a tempting bath filled with piles of white frothy bubbles.

Heavy eyelids close of their own accord as soft and jazzy Chris Botti’s “When I Fall In Love” serenades your ears.  Embraced by your private fantasy, a small smile lights your face. 

The towel around you drops.  Cool air rushes across your skin, sparking every nerve ending with goose bumps from head to toe.

You inhale deeply.  The sweet scent of jasmine delights you, transporting you to a place and time when he held your hand, laughing and teasing.  Joy fills your heart.

Bare toes are momentarily buried in a carpet of suede chenille before they dip into water warmed to the perfect state of “Ahhhhh…”  Your body sinks down into velvet water, warmth enveloping you like a lover’s caress.

The sounds of popping bubbles tickle your ears as heat soothes every muscle in gentle massage.  You bend a foam-coated leg, luxuriating in peaceful bliss.

A tray of dark-chocolate-covered strawberries perched on the white porcelain edge tempts you.  Your mouth waters as the rich scent beckons a taste.  With two fingers you lift the fuzzy stem.  Head tipped back, you dangle it past open lips onto your tongue.  Smooth.  Sweet.  You allow it slide further down until you can’t wait any longer.  You tighten until the most delicious explosion overcomes you.  A low moan escapes.

{takes a deep breath, looking around}

What I was talking about?  {swallows hard}

Oh, yes.  Embracing sensuality….

You now have the idea.  Surrounded by your favorite things helps pull you into each experience.  Make each moment as if the experience is your very first time.  Don’t simply be there.  Be there.
Allow yourself to go to a heavenly place where you feel instead of think.  Escape to bliss.

Your entire world changes to such a degree it’s almost like being in love.  Colors are brighter.  Small things we take for granted suddenly become miraculous as you take time to enjoy.  I can no longer simply pass by a rose bush.  The colors beckon me.  After carefully checking the most enticing bloom for a bee {smiles remembering how I learned that lesson the alarming way}, my nose is unabashedly buried deep inside for a fragrant inhalation.  The softest petal is plucked.  My fingers brush the velvet memento as I delight in its sweet scent throughout the day.

When we truly embrace sensuality, we become more sensual creatures.  We radiate an essence out into the world that attracts people to us.  They want some of whatever drug we’re on, and the feeling becomes contagious.

Your solitary journey is only the beginning.  Once you’re able to fully appreciate the experience, sharing with another takes the pleasure to a whole other level.

Would you like to learn more?

Interestingly, I’ve just read Sylvain Reynard’s Gabriel’s Inferno and Gabriel’s Rapture.  Mr. Reynard is a master in sensuality.  He skillfully pulls you into a sensory world with rich colors, beautiful art, seductive foods, moving music, and whispered touches.

Great writing incorporates sensuality at every opportunity.  Readers have a more vivid and layered journey.

Every time I’m weaving magic into a scene… I embrace sensuality.

Enjoy your journey, my friends!

Please share your favorite moments of sensuality.  I’m giving away $25.00 Amazon gift cards to four lucky people who comment.  With the reward:  Spoil yourselves.  Read from masters.

Your Favorite Shoe,



That was pretty awesome don’t you think?!?

Thanks so much Kat…for the guest post and the awesome giveaway.

All you have to do to enter is leave Kat a comment.

Giveaway will run through Saturday.

Winner will be chosen to Random.org.

**No purchase necessary**

Tamie Xo

36 thoughts on “Kat Bastion: Embracing Sensuality…

  1. What a lovely post to wake up to this morning!

    I think my most recent outstanding adventure in sensuality was visiting the Van Gogh exhibit at the Philadelphia Museum. I was visually surrounded by the richest, most vivid colors and scenes by a world master. It was almost overwhelming in the best sense of the word.

    Thank your for your beautiful words, Kat.


  2. Jenny says:

    Great entry today!! And I totally agree about GI and GR….sensual is definitely the overwhelming mood. 🙂


  3. Sara Emir Sobel says:

    My most sensual experiences involve food and eating and memories of great meals. To me, food and eating speaks to all of the senses: sight, smell, taste, touch and even hearing. Thanks so much for these lovely thoughts!


  4. Lariza says:

    Great giveaway!! I really enjoy reading Cosmo, the articles on subjects such as sex, sensuality and relationships are wonderful. They are easy to read and anyone can relate to them! Superb writing in GI and GR which makes the reader feel what the characters are feeling!! 🙂


  5. Reblogged this on Talk To The Shoe and commented:
    Tamie, thank you my friend for inviting me to guest post celebrating your One Year Blogiversary. Congratulations!


  6. Arely Z. says:

    Thank you for the giveaway! I’ve always said to take an hour off every once in a while to spoil one’s self!


  7. Gigigia says:

    OMG , running to my bathroom n setting up the sensual scene right now u transported me to a place I need to b right now , especially remembering my Cosmo magazine days 101 and moving forward in time to sylvan Reynard GI/ GR


  8. Kat says:

    That was amazing Kat! Certainly gave me something to think about and learn as I start my own journey into better, more sensual writing. 🙂


  9. kittykat0208 says:

    Thank you so much Kat for a amazing post. You have gave me a lot to think about and learn as I delve into my own journey of writing. My top goal is always to draw the reader in with sensuality. 🙂 Love this. Definitely will be a favorite.


  10. Love this post – as someone who is alone, it’s good to connect with one’s inner sensualist in any way possible. 🙂


  11. Cynthia Gail says:

    What a great post, Kat. I think I’m taking the rest of the day off.


  12. robyn says:

    My favorite moments of sensuality? Good questions it’s when my two little ones are a sleep. It ‘s quiet and I curl up in bed and read. Its my favorite time to just be with myself and relax. 🙂 Great Giveaway


  13. artgirlnyc says:

    Very intriguing post. I was actually thinking about Sylvain Reynard as you were giving your example. I will have to make some time to get in touch with my sensuality.


  14. buckeyegirl31 says:

    Great post! I would have to say my favorite moments of sensuality have come from trying out different things I’ve read about either from the glossys or in books & being surprised when they work. 🙂


  15. shay aka 50shayds says:

    mY problem is finding alone time.


  16. ChocoMG2112 says:

    Lovely post filled with lovely, intriguing words. I do agree that SR is a master of sensual writing.


  17. Thank you again, Tamie for inviting me to guest post for your Blogiversary. Your welcoming generosity is amazing! {hugs a million}

    ~ Kat


  18. Nicole says:

    I definitely don’t have difficulty embracing sensuality. 😉

    This was very helpful anyway, because it’s given me a whole new perspective of how to embrace experience and WRITE sensually. I’ve tried writing erotic works before and they never end up, er, pulling the reader in. Clearly what I’m not doing well enough is grounding the experience with sense-triggers. Thanks for the post!


  19. BTC says:

    Great post! Especially as I’m trying to tackle a writing project. It’s very important to remember to describe the little things. I recently had an intimate and very sensual moment with a hot fudge sundae – does that count? lol

    Thanks for the chance at an amazing giveaway!


  20. stephanie v says:

    Sensuality? My sensuality come out when I read a really good erotic book. The way the author describes the love scenes take me to my happy imaginary place….


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